By letting our emotions run wild, we end up saying unpleasant and sometimes even aggressive things to each other, to the point of causing real damage to our love relationship – which is never healthy and constructive!

To enable you to evolve in a serene relational space in which you feel safe and heard, you must first identify your boundaries, and for each other’s well-being and for your relationship to thrive, you must be able to clearly express what is acceptable, tolerable, and non-negotiable.

Here are some tips to help you set your boundaries:

To know your limits, ask yourself what your values are.

To become clear about your emotions and needs and express them constructively, use Non-Violent Communication (NVC) as a means of communication. To help you achieve this, you can click here and access my Transformative Communication course.

Dare to use “yes” and “no”! These are excellent compasses that allow you to express your limits. Even if their use can sometimes seem challenging, integrating these two words into your vocabulary can save you a lot of dissatisfaction, frustration, and even conflict.

Stay alert and remember that your boundaries may lose their meaning over time: What was valid yesterday may no longer be right for you today or may not be okay tomorrow. So, always question their legitimacy to make sure that making them known and respected does not lock you in or limit you!

Don’t wait any longer! Define your boundaries now and express them in kindness. Suggest your partner do the same and listen to them with compassion and gratitude. It will strengthen your intimacy and allow you to feel secure in your relationship and meet each other’s needs!

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