Example of a fulfilling belief (resource): I can accomplish many things in my life.

Example of a disempowering (limiting) belief: I am not smart enough to succeed.

Know that cleaning up our belief system is essential to ensure our evolution.

When should we do it? In the spring?

No, not precisely, but whenever you feel stagnant in your life, when you find yourself at a dead end or when you notice that you continually encounter the same obstacles on your path. 

This cleansing consists of identifying and sorting your resource and limiting beliefs. You may wonder, why do it regularly if you do it once?

Because we have an infinite number of beliefs in our system, which constantly regenerate, also, the one that served us in the past can become, over time, obstacles to our well-being and fulfillment.

Let me give you an example to illustrate my point of a resource belief that became limiting.

One of my clients believed that he had to fight to succeed. His parents had done this all their lives to give their children financial security. And this belief had been his driving force up to that point.

While he had reached the pinnacle of fame and success, he continued to struggle to “make it.” By the time he came to me, he was experiencing burnout. What had allowed him to achieve great things in the past had ended up putting his mental and physical health at risk.

Here is an exercise to help you understand how to clean up your belief system.

First, think of a situation that keeps coming up, preventing you from moving forward with what you hope to experience. For example, you can’t stay in a relationship but want to. Then ask yourself the following questions:

What could be the limiting belief that is blocking your desire?
Example: Being in a relationship is a deprivation of freedom.

What could make you believe this?
Example: I see this when I observe the couples around me.

What experience from your childhood or young adult life does this belief relate to?
Example: My parents’ model of a couple and my mother’s experience of sacrificing her life as a woman for my father.

When could you have begun to believe this?
Example: At that time, my mother told me I should not depend on a man to remain free.

How did this belief help and support you?
Example: Thanks to this belief, I am independent, and nothing and no one stops me from achieving my desires.

How does this belief limit you today?
Example: I would like to be in a relationship and start a family, but as soon as my partner wants to make a more profound commitment to me, I break off our relationship.

What positive belief could replace the one that is limiting you today?
Example: My parents’ relationship was theirs, and I am free to have mine.

Note this. It is not about eliminating a belief but replacing it with another. And for your new belief to take root in your system, you need to create opportunities to embody it.

Ask for support to clarify your belief system by allowing someone knowledgeable to let you see your blind spots. Once some of your limiting beliefs are transformed, new doors open to give you access to the happiness you wish to experience.

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