Is your ego a friend or a foe?

Self-development

Written by Sophie Parienti

The word “ego” regularly comes into conversations, but we often misunderstand its meaning and overlook its essential role in building our identity.

In the past, I have mistakenly associated the ego with arrogant people and their complacency. That is a rather simplistic understanding, as the ego’s mission is far more critical than revealing an unfortunate aspect of our personality.

Indeed, the ego is nothing more or less than the identity that has the particularity of being able to evolve and transform itself permanently.

The structure of this identity (of the ego) is its belief system which conditions the perception of reality and a person’s behaviors. It represents the fears, anxieties, and insecurities that we have developed in life. It is rooted in principles, ideas, experiences, and concepts of truth, making each of us separate from the other.

Therefore, we identify with our ego by thinking we are our identity (personality). When we attach ourselves to what we believe we are, we give our constructed identity full power over our life.

So, if we believe that we are, for example, creative, resourceful, strong-willed, career-minded or envious, anxious, fraudulent, etc., our ego will ensure that we are that and that we stay that way at any cost.

As you can see, our ego is there for us, for better or worse, to protect our negative and positive beliefs.

But be aware that by giving too much importance and power to the ego, we risk distancing ourselves from our true nature. By reducing our “personal-reality” (personality) to what we have become over time and to what we think we are, we progressively lock ourselves into a restricted life, disconnecting us from our source.

Imagine that we have one room that contains our ego and our true Self. If we feed our ego so much that it expands incredibly, there won’t be any space for our Self to grow into the beautiful being it is.

That is why it is essential to tame our ego by identifying our belief system to develop self-awareness and live our lives in harmony with our true nature.

To understand the belief system and how it constructs our ego, read my article – Link here: To believe or to be(lived).

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