How do we choose a partner?
Written by Sophie Parienti
You may think you’re with your partner because when you met them, they checked off all the boxes of the perfect lover. For some people, it might be: blue eyes, good with children, enjoying an excellent Indian takeout, don’t have a clingy mom, don’t have an addiction to Reddit, etc.
Unless, when you met them, your magnetic attraction was such that you got close and instantly exchanged phone numbers. Then it was no longer a matter of checking off boxes but only of chemistry between you.
Whether you recognize yourself in the first or the second case, you probably adhere to the romantic idea that your meeting resulted from a coincidence. And if you’re in a conflicted and complicated relationship today, you might blame that coincidence for your relationship’s challenges.
Let me give you a significant insight; you definitely did not meet due to luck. The fact that you are with your partner today or have been in a relationship with someone is far from a coincidence.
Let me explain.
The people you meet on your path and the love stories you experience are not independent of your past; more precisely, they are directly related to the relationships that influenced your childhood.
Thus, you cannot attract the “wrong” person to you because your ideal partner is also the one with whom you may have a tumultuous and conflicting relationship, and there is a reason for that.
Your partner comes into your life (and vice versa) so you can heal the wounds of your past (even the ones that seem insignificant to you) and learn the lessons necessary for your emotional growth. Together, you will create opportunities to meet your inner self and move forward on your path of consciousness.
So, if your partner no longer ticks the boxes or the chemistry between you is not at the level of your honeymoon, don’t give up! This troubled period you might be going through, at times, is nothing more than an opportunity to understand what brought you together in the first place. By doing this awareness work, you can lead your relationship to its infinite potential.
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