A couple’s intimacy is much more than just physical closeness. It’s a deep connection based on trust, mutual understanding, and sharing the most personal aspects of life. It’s also a safe space where we can express ourselves authentically.

This closeness is achieved through intimate conversations, shared emotions and loving, affectionate gestures. 

Fundamentally, intimacy allows us to feel connected, supported, and valued and promotes physical, emotional, and psychological well-being. Deep connection is, therefore, essential to the balance and durability of a relationship.

But in this hectic world, where we are constantly stimulated and solicited, couples neglect their intimate bond. As the years pass, partners may wake up one morning and realize their connection has been lost. 

However, it’s important to remember that intimacy can be rekindled, and a deeper connection can be formed.

But let’s first look at what has created such a distance between two people who claim to love each other.

Obstacles to intimacy.

Lack of time for oneself and the couple, professional and family obligations and busy schedules sometimes make us forget the importance of prioritizing the relationship and nurturing the bond. 

Routine and monotony: The routine we tend to settle into over time annihilates all the spontaneity essential to passionate lovemaking. It makes us forget the importance of cultivating emotional and physical intimacy.

Stress and external pressures: The pressures of daily life, worries, the imperatives of success and other social, family and professional tensions invade the relational sphere and relegate intimacy to the background.

Lack and miscommunication: Ineffective communication can create misunderstandings and resentments, undermining the couple’s intimacy. All the above factors are undeniable “anti-communication.”

Emotional and physical challenges: Emotional concerns can have an impact on the sexual relationship, and conversely, sexual problems can lead to emotional tensions, plunging the couple into a vicious circle of failed intimacy. 

Unresolved emotional wounds: Unresolved conflicts and emotional wounds can create barriers to authentic connection between partners.

Of course, all these obstacles can be overcome with love, sincere intention, willingness and open-mindedness… and by adding Tantric principles to your daily interactions.

Understanding Tantra: More than just sex.

Tantra, the ancient practice that originated in India, is about connecting deeply not just with your partner, but with the world around you. It teaches presence, respect, and the art of truly seeing and being seen. Learning to slow down and truly connect can be revolutionary in a world that often values speed over depth.

Why Tantra?

Incorporating tantric principles into your relationship can significantly deepen your emotional and physical intimacy. It’s not just about improving your love life; it’s about creating a more profound spiritual bond with your partner. 

Here’s how to start integrating these beautiful practices into your everyday life.

1. Mindful presence

One of the foundational aspects of Tantra is mindfulness. It means being fully present with your partner without distractions. When you’re with them, focus entirely on the moment—listen deeply, touch intentionally, and make eye contact. These actions signal to your partner that they have your full attention, making them feel loved and valued.

2. Sacred sexuality

Tantric sex is perhaps what the practice is most famous for, but it’s not just about physical pleasure. It’s about recognizing the act of lovemaking as a sacred, spiritual experience that can bring you and your partner closer together. In tantric sexuality, the journey matters more than the destination. It’s about exploring and enjoying each moment and movement without focusing solely on the climax. Think of sexuality as a means of connection and mutual pleasure rather than personal satisfaction. From this perspective, all gestures of tenderness and eroticism should be seen as acts of love. This approach to sexuality profoundly develops intimacy and redefines the game of love.

3. Emotional transparency

Being open about your feelings is crucial in tantric practices. It doesn’t mean just discussing when you’re upset or happy—rather, it involves sharing your deepest fears, desires, and thoughts. Such vulnerability can lead to greater intimacy and understanding between you and your partner.

4. Practice conscious communication.

It means fostering a space for communication where everyone feels safe to be themselves. Mindful communication is characterized by honesty, authenticity, active listening, and caring.

5. Create a strong emotional bond.

Decide on a regular “emotional” rendezvous. Sitting comfortably opposite each other, you take the time to look into each other’s eyes in silence. Hold hands, breathe together, and let these moments embrace your emotions and each other’s essence. 

6. Ritual creation

Creating rituals can be a powerful way to enhance intimacy. It could be anything from having a specific way you greet each other when you come home, to more elaborate rituals like regular date nights or even spiritual practices like meditation together. These rituals build a unique culture for your relationship, strengthening your bond.

7. Continuous discovery

In Tantra, there’s an emphasis on constantly discovering new things about yourself and your partner. It could be through trying new activities together, exploring new aspects of your sexuality, or even embarking on spiritual journeys together. It keeps the relationship fresh and exciting.

8. Cultivating patience and gratitude

Patience and gratitude are key tantric virtues. Patience helps you accept and love your partner as they are, while gratitude reminds you of all the beautiful things about your relationship and your partner. Try to consciously practice these virtues daily by acknowledging and appreciating small acts of kindness or patience when things don’t go as planned.

9. Integrating body and spirit

Finally, Tantra involves recognizing the connection between body and spirit. This means loving your partner physically and connecting with them on a spiritual level. This holistic approach to love can lead to a deeper, more meaningful relationship.

By embracing these tantric principles, you’re not just improving your relationship; you’re also embarking on a path of personal and spiritual growth. Remember, the journey of Tantra is not a quick fix—it’s a lifelong adventure that requires commitment, openness and a lot of love.

So, are you ready to dive into the depths of tantric love and connection? The journey is sure to be as enriching as it is enlightening.

Remember that the path to lasting intimacy takes time, patience and mutual commitment, but the rewards are well worth it.

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Understanding emotional codependency.

Emotional codependency signifies a relationship dynamic where one’s emotional and physical welfare becomes intricately intertwined with another’s. In this intricate weave, one’s sense of self and esteem dwindles, eclipsed by an unrelenting reliance on the other for validation and fulfilment.

It goes beyond mere longing for a partner’s presence; it’s a profound entanglement where personal growth becomes a distant thought amongst the needs and emotions of the other.

Distinguishing codependency from emotional dependency.

Let’s be clear – emotional dependency and codependency may tread similar ground, but they diverge in essence. While the former denotes a reliance on a partner’s emotional support, the latter entails assuming the burden of another’s emotions and problems, tethered by a fear of abandonment and rejection.

In the realm of emotional dependency, self-preservation remains intact, albeit shadowed by the allure of a partner’s affection.

Spotting the signs of emotional codependency.

Recognizing emotional codependency can be subtle, like navigating a maze in the dark. Yet, if you suspect you have a codependent temperament but aren’t sure, you may observe some prominent characteristics in your behavior that point to it.

Fear of abandonment and/or rejection: you dread being cast adrift or forsaken. It is why you may cling to your partner or the people closest to you, sometimes to the point of maintaining unsatisfying, even toxic relationships.

Conflict avoidance: you have a penchant for sweeping issues under the rug to avert confrontation. You’ll even go so far as to pretend everything’s fine rather than risk rejection. 

Difficulty setting boundaries: You have difficulties setting limits, often at the expense of your needs. Out of concern to please, not to make waves and above all not to break the bond, you often sacrificing your desires for others.

Emotional repression: You suppress your emotions to maintain harmony and avoid rejection at the cost of authentic expression.

Tendency to control: you are subtly inclined to manipulate and regulate others to secure stability.

Attracts dysfunctional relationships: You seek out toxic relationships so you can play the role of saviour and protector and feel validated by the other person.

Unravelling the roots of emotional codependency.

The origins of emotional codependency often lie enshrined in our past experiences. Childhood dynamics steeped in dysfunction or trauma may sow the seeds of dependency, fostering an environment where individual needs are subjugated for the sake of familial harmony and peace.

Yet, it’s not just our childhood that shapes our present; traumatic adult experiences serve to amplify existing wounds, perpetuating the cycle of codependency.

It reminds me of one of my clients, Sarah, who grew up in a home where the focus was on the needs and fragility of a severely depressed mother. Feeling that she had no right to express her vulnerabilities, Sarah developed a tendency to repress her emotions, laying the foundations for emotional dependency.

Today, Sarah has entered adulthood. She is in a relationship where her partner controls and belittles her emotions. Her traumatic relationship experience awakens deep-rooted childhood wounds, intensifying her feelings of inadequacy and dependency behaviour.

Despite recognizing the toxicity of her relationship, Sarah finds it difficult to break out of the cycle of codependency, as her past experiences continue to cast a shadow over her present choices.

Navigating the spectrum of emotional codependency.

Affective codependency manifests itself in different areas of life and at various levels. Here are the main types.

Sexual codependency: Where the pursuit of intimacy eclipses all other needs.

Narcissistic codependency: A relentless quest for validation in the shadow of a narcissistic partner.

Family codependency: caught in a web of generational interdependence and dysfunction.

Amicable codependency: Sacrificing self for the sake of preserving relationships.

Romantic codependency: An intoxicating yet suffocating bond, often fraught with toxicity.

Engaging in the journey to liberation.

Escaping the clutches of emotional codependency is no mean feat, yet it is within our grasp. Here are my guiding stars:

Embrace self-awareness: putting light on codependency begins with acknowledging your behavioural patterns. Take a step back. Watch yourself act and listen to what you say. When do you avoid conflict and find it hard to set limits? Do you sometimes try to control others? Are you prone to toxic relationships? Becoming aware of your codependency is the first essential step to overcoming it.

Forge boundaries: Empowerment lies in the ability to say no when you identify behaviours that are not acceptable to you or when you feel overwhelmed. I always recommend that my clients use Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to ensure a safe space in which they feel safe expressing their expectations and needs.

Cultivate self-worth: Nurturing a resilient self-image grounded in your intrinsic worth rather than depending on others’ validation to create change is essential. This also means practising self-compassion, recognizing your strengths and successes, and surrounding yourself with people who support you positively.

Foster independence: Reclaiming autonomy means finding joy, satisfaction and fulfilment independently of external validation. To achieve this, you must devote time to activities and hobbies you enjoy and are passionate about.

Focus on self-care: Prioritizing our well-being paves the path to liberation. To do this, take steps that promote a healthy, balanced lifestyle, look after your appearance to appreciate yourself even more, and make sure you come first!

Persist with purpose and celebrate! Overcoming codependency is a process that can take time and requires personal investment, willpower, and perseverance. So, to keep yourself on track, don’t fail to celebrate every step toward healing you take. Big or small, they all bring you closer to transformation.

Conclusion

The way towards a more independent You.

Emotional codependency can trap anyone, but with awareness and strength, you can break free.

By unravelling the intricacies of emotional codependency, you pave the way for authentic connection, self-empowerment, and enduring fulfilment in your relationships.

May this journey empower you to recognize your value, build strength, and form genuine connections based on mutual respect and authenticity.

And remember, even in the complexity of emotional codependency, there’s hope for those brave enough to seek freedom. You can do it!

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So, how do we navigate this intricate landscape of thoughts at the origins of our digressions and bring order to them?

It’s a question many of us grapple with, and the answer lies in understanding the why and how of this mental journey.

The why: understanding the purpose of thoughts.

First, let’s delve into the why. Why does our mind produce thoughts – sometimes cheerful and uplifting or negative and discouraging – that take us away from the facts? To understand this, you need to know that our thoughts are not merely random occurrences and that they pursue precise objectives:

Survival Instinct.

Our brain is wired to keep us safe. It alerts us to potential dangers, producing cautious thoughts that enable us to assess the risks. While this survival instinct is vital, it can sometimes create unnecessary anxiety when applied to everyday situations.

Processing Information.

Thoughts help us process the vast amount of information continuously gathered by all our alert senses. They enable us to make sense of our experiences, form memories, and solve problems.

Emotional Expression.

Thoughts are a channel for our emotions. They shape and form our feelings, helping us understand and communicate what we’re going through. This emotional expression is a crucial aspect of our human experience.

Self-Identity.

Our thoughts play a pivotal role in shaping our self-identity. The stories we tell ourselves about who we are, our capabilities and our limitations can significantly impact our self-esteem and overall well-being.

Our thoughts in pursuit of these objectives are controlled by our ego, which is responsible for maintaining our constructed identity. (To be developed to answer the initial question, Why does our mind produce thoughts that take us away from the facts? 

The how: navigating the landscape.

Now that we’ve explored the why let’s focus on the how—how to navigate this intricate landscape of our thoughts and make our speech more in line with what is :

Question and challenge.

When a thought arises, particularly one that feels heavy or unsettling, take a moment to pause and question its validity. Ask yourself, “Is this really true?” Challenge these thoughts as if you’re a detective seeking the truth. You’ll often discover these thoughts are based on assumptions or past experiences that may no longer be relevant.

Practice mindfulness.

Mindfulness is a powerful tool that allows you to observe your thoughts without judgment. It’s like stepping back and watching a parade pass by without getting caught up in the floats. When you engage in mindfulness, you create a space between yourself and your thoughts. This space offers clarity and perspective, enabling you to respond to your thoughts consciously.

Grow positive thoughts.

Imagine your mind as a garden that needs tending. So, just as the gardener removes invasive weeds and tends the flowers, cultivate your useful, rewarding, and stimulating thoughts and eliminate those that aren’t and hinder your growth. To do this, get into the habit of incorporating positive affirmations into your daily routine. These are short, uplifting statements that counteract negative or self-limiting thoughts. By repeating positive affirmations, you can rewire your thought patterns over time.

Journaling.

Keeping a journal can be a therapeutic way to explore and understand your thoughts. Write down your thoughts as they arise, and then analyze them objectively. Are they serving you? How do you feel when you have that thought? Journaling provides an opportunity for self-reflection and insight. 

Be kind to yourself.

Lastly, approach your thoughts with kindness and compassion. It’s essential to remember that it’s perfectly normal to have negative thoughts occasionally. What truly matters is how you choose to handle them. Instead of criticizing yourself for having such thoughts, practice self-compassion. Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer to a dear friend going through a tough time. Remember, you are only human, and your thoughts don’t define your worth.

Conclusion.

Understanding why all these thoughts are productive and implementing the tips above will help you stay calm and learn from the ramblings in your narrative for which they are responsible.

Remember that your thoughts are not set in stone, and you have the power to shape them, ultimately leading to a healthier and more positive mental landscape.

Don’t hesitate to ask a trusted friend, family member, or therapist for support when you feel overwhelmed by intrusive thoughts. Sharing them with someone you trust can give you a fresh perspective and emotional relief.

And be aware that you are not your thoughts but this magnificent and perfectly complex Being who has the power to live in harmony with what is and to learn from the experiences of reality to grow.

I wish you a transformative journey on the path of conscious thought and self-love! 

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The mind’s forgotten ally.

Late nights of studying or endless hours behind a desk may seem like the price we pay for success, but they often come at the cost of our physical well-being. It’s vital to remember that the mind lives in a body, and this body needs to stay healthy to reciprocate with healthy thoughts and moral fortitude. A tired, neglected vessel is ill-equipped to carry the weight of ambition and aspiration. Ignoring the body not only leads to physical ailments but can also manifest as mental fatigue, stress, and diminished self-esteem.

The body-mind connection.

Our body plays a pivotal role in how we are perceived from the outside and how we perceive ourselves. Imagine someone walking into a room with slumped shoulders and a hunched back, indicating exhaustion and lack of energy. Now compare this situation with someone who walks into the same room with shoulders straightened, back straight but supple, and a confident stride, a sign of confidence and vitality. As you can see, the difference is physical and involves a profound change in self-perception and confidence.

The power of self-care in relationships.

While the importance of self-care for personal well-being is evident, it becomes even more crucial within the context of relationships. Whether you’re single, in a committed partnership, or navigating the labyrinth of dating, your physical health profoundly impacts your ability to foster and sustain meaningful connections.

In a relationship, self-care isn’t a selfish act but a gift to yourself and your partner. A healthy body fuels a positive self-image, and when you feel good about yourself, you bring a vibrant energy to your relationship. Imagine the difference between entering a relationship with low self-esteem, perpetually exhausted, and riddled with health issues versus showing up as a confident, energized, and healthy individual.

Taking care of your body is a demonstration of love and respect not only for yourself but for your partner as well. It communicates that you value your relationship enough to invest in your well-being, which, in turn, enriches the collective experience. Healthy bodies make for happier individuals, and happier individuals create stronger, more harmonious relationships.

When both partners prioritize self-care, it fosters a culture of well-being within the relationship. It encourages open communication about health goals, exercise routines, and dietary choices. This shared commitment to physical health strengthens the bond between partners as they inspire each other to make healthier choices, embark on fitness journeys together, and provide unwavering support.

Empowering the body, empowering the self.

So, how do you align your body and mind on a high vibration to strengthen your self-esteem? Below are some tips to help you nourish your physical self and, in turn, empower your entire being:

1. Prioritize Sleep: Rest is the cornerstone of physical and mental health. Aim for 7-9 hours of quality sleep each night to recharge your body and mind.

2. Stay Active: Incorporate regular exercise into your routine. It doesn’t have to be grueling; even a brisk walk, yoga, or dancing can invigorate your body and boost your mood.

3. Eat Mindfully: Fuel your body with balanced, nourishing meals. Opt for whole foods, plenty of fruits and vegetables, and hydrate adequately.

4. Manage Stress: Practice stress-reduction techniques like meditation, deep breathing, or mindfulness to keep your mind calm and your body relaxed.

5. Connect with Nature: Spend time outdoors, immerse yourself in the beauty of the natural world, and rejuvenate your spirit.

6. Regular Check-Ups: Don’t neglect medical check-ups and screenings. Prevention is often more effective than treatment, even if you are not big on allopathic medicine.

7. Self-Care Rituals: Incorporate self-care rituals into your daily life, whether it’s a warm bath, a good book, or moments of quiet reflection.

8. Set Boundaries: Learn to say no when needed and prioritize your well-being. Boundaries protect your energy and prevent burnout.

9. Stay Hydrated: Water is essential for bodily functions and mental clarity. Make it a habit to drink enough water throughout the day.

10. Celebrate Progress: Celebrate your physical achievements, no matter how small. Each step towards a healthier body is a step towards a more empowered self.

In short.

Remember, you are the custodian of your mind and body, and their well-being is your responsibility. By nurturing your physical self, you empower your mind to soar to greater heights, and in doing so, you embrace a fuller, more vibrant life. Your body is your loyal companion on this journey, so treat it with the love, care, and respect it deserves. In this harmonious union of mind and body, you’ll find the strength to navigate life’s challenges and the courage to chase your dreams with vitality and vigor.

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Peeling back the layers.

Self-reflection allows us to recognize our patterns, strengths, and areas we need where we need growth. Allowing us to peel back the layers of our hearts and minds enables us to understand better who we are and how we love. It’s not just a solitary journey; Self-reflection is a real opportunity to apprehend our connections with those we love, offering us the chance to create a bridge to greater intimacy.

Picture this: your partner tells you they want to go on a spontaneous road trip, but you cringe at the thought of leaving your comfort zone. Through self-reflection, you might uncover that your aversion to spontaneity stems from a childhood fear of unpredictability. Acknowledging this allows you to communicate with your partner, fostering a deeper connection and perhaps even finding a compromise that satisfies your need for stability and their craving for adventure.

Listening to the unspoken.

In my own life, this journey of introspection has been transformative. It’s taught me to listen more deeply, not just to the words of my partner but to the unspoken language of their heart. Imagine your partner coming home, seemingly upset from a day at work, but they don’t want to discuss it. Your first reaction may be to respond with your insecurities or fears and to be upset in turn. Self-reflection will allow you to put things into perspective instead of letting your emotions overwhelm you so you can turn your attention back to your partner. You may then realize that his silence is his way of seeking comfort rather than solitude. A gentle hug, a cup of tea, or sitting together in comforting silence could change the situation completely.

Stepping into their shoes.

By enabling me to observe and understand my inner experiences, introspection made me aware of my vulnerabilities, my needs, and, consequently, the similarities between my reactions and those of others. So, by understanding myself better, I learned to understand others, their emotions, and their reactions. Self-reflection strengthens our ability to empathize with others, fostering caring relationships.

Have you ever disagreed with your partner about something seemingly trivial, like the proper way to load the dishwasher? Instead of a mundane argument, self-reflection can lead to an aha moment. You may realize it’s not about the dishes but your partner’s need for order and control to respond to chaos in other aspects of their life. Understanding this, you can work together to find a harmonious way of sharing household responsibilities.

The beauty of vulnerability.

But most importantly, self-reflection has taught me the value of vulnerability. By recognizing and connecting with it, I can share my journey with my partner, opening up about my fears, hopes, and dreams and deepening our connection and intimacy.

Think about when you’ve hesitated to share your insecurities with your partner, fearing judgment or rejection. Through self-reflection, you might realize that (acknowledging) vulnerability is the key to unlocking a deeper emotional connection. By sharing your authentic self, you invite your partner to do the same, creating a safe space where both of you can thrive.

Transforming your personal experience of life and love.

So, as you navigate the complexities of your relationships, take time for self-reflection. It might be the most loving thing you can do for yourself and those you hold dear.

Imagine a world where couples embark on this introspective journey together. A world where we all take a moment to ponder the experiences that shaped us, the fears that hold us back, and the dreams that light our path. It’s a world where conflicts are not battles but growth opportunities, where silence is not a barrier but an invitation, and where love is not just a feeling but a shared understanding.

As you peer into the mirror of your soul, remember that you can take this journey together. Your partner can and should also embark on a journey of self-discovery. Launching on this path hand in hand will create a relationship based on vulnerability, empathy, and mutual growth. You’ll allow each other to explore your hearts and discover the uncharted territories of your emotions and desires.

Conclusion.

Transforming your personal experience of relationships and life begins with a simple yet profound act: looking inward. It’s about acknowledging the stories etched in your heart, the fears that lurk in the shadows, and the dreams that dance in your thoughts, embracing your vulnerabilities, quirks, and uniqueness, and extending the same embrace to your partner.

In this shared adventure of self-reflection, you rewrite the narrative of your relationship. It’s a journey that never truly ends, for each day brings new revelations, new layers to explore, and new depths of connection to fathom. In essence, self-introspection paves the road to a deep commitment to your happiness and, therefore, to relationship fulfillment.

So, the next time you find yourself gazing at the sunrise or stealing a moment of solitude in the early morning calm, remember the transformative magic of self-reflection. Embrace it not as a solitary pursuit but as a shared adventure that enriches your connection with your partner and transforms the very essence of your love. It’s a journey of a lifetime—a journey to the heart of your relationship, where self-discovery intertwines with the beauty of loving and being loved.

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Let’s consciously sidestep these limiting beliefs and misconceptions we hold about ourselves. Instead of dwelling on perceived flaws, let’s take a moment to embrace and celebrate the exceptional beauty within each of us. It’s a journey toward self-acceptance and self-love that can profoundly transform our lives.

I know objectively that our uniqueness and the radiance of our inner light make us truly beautiful. And when I don’t let myself be influenced by society’s diktats and connect with myself, I experience this statement. So, fitting into a mold or meeting an agreed-upon standard doesn’t make us indisputably beautiful!

Therefore, the solution to perceiving our beauty is to accept, love, and value our individuality and uniqueness, to learn to look in the mirror and see ourselves beyond societal norms. 

We must learn to cherish the myriad stories, struggles, and strength that our body and face reflect—each a testament to our life experiences that have shaped us into uniquely remarkable individuals.

These lines etched upon our skin, the creases that form with each smile, and the scars that narrate battles we fought and won are not blemishes but rather eloquent images of the chapters of our existence.

Every curve and relief of our entire body bears witness to our joys and sorrows, laughter and tears, and talk about the singularity of our journey and the richness of our lives.

It’s futile to attempt to conform to conventional beauty standards. Our life experiences are etched into our very being, shaping our bodies and leaving their marks on our faces. Resisting these unique imprints would be a disavowal of our true selves. What could be more detrimental to our self-esteem than such self-denial?

In this article, I motivate us to accept our uniqueness and marks of distinction, embrace them with all our being, and explore how to do that, for they are the indelible imprints of our extraordinary journey through the kaleidoscope of existence. They are the light that emphasizes our beauty.

Unmasking the ego’s traps.

The role of our ego is to maintain our identity, built around who we think we are. To do this, it feeds on our insecurities and fears, locking us in our doubts. 

Influenced by the diktats of our society and always finding ourselves less this or less that because we don’t meet its criteria of beauty, our ego tries to convince us that we must strive to resemble others to find ourselves beautiful.

In so doing, it draws us into a vicious circle of comparison and dependence on society’s changing beauty standards, those of magazine covers, or the well-regulated lives of social media influencers. It even goes so far as to convince us that our happiness depends on our ability to match these images.

But our worth is not dependent on likes, followers, or the admiration of those around us.

We cannot let our ego fool us. Instead, let’s move forward at the pace of our hearts, celebrating our unique and perfect essence. That’s how we can free ourselves from its suffocating grip and create a new space where self-love and self-acceptance reign supreme and our tendency to compare ourselves is a distant memory.

Nurturing your unique beauty: accepting what makes you, You.

Our journey toward welcoming our unique beauty begins with a simple yet profound shift in perspective. It’s about rewiring ourselves to our hearts to appreciate and nurture what makes us different. Here are some ways and tips to help you on this empowering journey.

1. Self-reflection and self-love.

Start by setting aside time for self-reflection. Look inward and acknowledge the qualities that make you unique. What are your strengths, your passions, your quirks? Reflect on these aspects and practice self-love by celebrating them. Write them down in a journal or repeat them as daily affirmations.

2. Break free from social comparisons.

Social media platforms often showcase curated and idealized versions of people’s lives. Remembering that what we see online is only part of the story is crucial. Limit your exposure to content that triggers comparison, and curate your feeds looking for positivity and authenticity. Unfollow accounts that promote unrealistic beauty standards.

3. Embrace your flaws.

Our imperfections are what make us beautifully and perfectly imperfect. They tell our stories of resilience, experience, and growth. Instead of hiding them, celebrate them. Also, remember that what you perceive as a flaw may be considered a unique and endearing quality by someone else.

4. Cultivate self-compassion.

Be kind to yourself, especially in moments of self-doubt. Treat yourself with the same compassion you’d offer to a dear friend. Remember that nobody is perfect, and we all have insecurities. By practicing self-compassion, you’ll build a stronger foundation of self-esteem.

5. Surround yourself with positivity.

Establish a social circle of people who appreciate your uniqueness. Seek out communities that embrace diversity and individuality. Your social environment has a significant impact on your self-image.

6. Authenticity in style.

Express your unique beauty through your style. Don’t conform to trends that don’t resonate with you. Instead, curate a wardrobe that reflects your personality and comfort. When you feel good in your skin, your inner beauty shines.

7. Practice gratitude.

Every day, take a moment to express gratitude for your unique qualities. Gratitude reminds us of the presence of abundance in our lives and moves us from comparison to appreciation.

8. Seek inner growth.

Remember that true beauty extends beyond the physical. Invest in personal growth and self-improvement. Explore your passions, acquire new skills, and embark on adventures that feed your soul. The more you nurture your inner world, the more your outer beauty will radiate.

9. Celebrate others’ uniqueness.

As you embrace your unique beauty, extend the same celebration to others. Compliment and uplift those around you, recognizing and appreciating their distinct qualities. Creating a culture of appreciation and acceptance benefits everyone.

10. Patience and consistency.

Nurturing your unique beauty is an ongoing journey. Be patient with yourself and consistent in your efforts. Self-acceptance and self-love take time, but the results are profoundly rewarding.

In a world that often emphasizes conformity, celebrating our unique beauty is almost an act of rebellion.

Conclusion.

In our quest to recognize our unique beauty, we embark on a profound journey transcending societal norms and self-imposed limitations. As we travel this path, we discover that the true essence of beauty lies not in appearance but in knowing how to be. It lies in the quirks that make us beings in our own right, the scars that tell of our resilience, and the dreams that drive us.

By cultivating our unique beauty, we inspire others and pave the way for them to embark on a path of transformation and fulfillment. We become the witness that self-love can be a battle against the dictates of our world that’s worth fighting. Embracing our uniqueness and individuality, we pave the way for a more inclusive and compassionate world where everyone’s distinct beauty is celebrated.

So, let’s apply these tips and accept and embrace what characterizes us, and we will experience our beauty and realize how much it reflects our extraordinary personality.

From now on, our heart must be our guide and make our love for ourselves the anthem of our existence.

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Three Key Criteria as Your Guide to Enhancing or Rescuing Your Relationship.

1. You are willing to improve and save your relationship.

Improving a relationship requires a fundamental and essential ingredient: intention. But it’s not enough to be able to say: “Of course I want things to be better between us!”

To be sure that the couple is on the right path to fulfillment, each must genuinely want to change and save the relationship.

The conscious, deep-seated desire to improve the relationship is, therefore, the driving force behind any positive change. Without it, the relationship risks stagnating and then deteriorating further.

This sincere intention to evolve and grow together paves the way for deeper, more meaningful bonds and, ultimately, contributes to the relationship’s long-term success.

Consider the fact that both must be on the right page to be able to rewrite the book of your relationship.

2. You understand contribution dynamics and are ready to take your responsibilities.

 Every relationship is a unique blend of what two individuals bring to it: their flaws, their strengths, their traumas, their beliefs, and so on. So, it’s essential to recognize that you and your partner contribute equally to the relationship dynamics.

Yet we tend to point out the other person’s faults and ignore our own, blaming them for our relationship experience. If we don’t recognize and understand the role we play in our relationship patterns, we risk becoming trapped in it.

Therefore, you must take full responsibility for your feelings, behaviors, words, etc., and their impact on your relationship so you can help it evolve positively.

3. You’re ready for counseling and the inner work to move forward on the path of your relationship transformation.

 The relationship can flourish if you and your partner engage in counseling or inner work. To make a relationship evolve positively or save it, you have to be willing to focus on your personal development rather than on the outcome of the relationship.

For example, consider the case of two of my clients. R. saw himself as a victim of A.’s anger. However, his response to her anger – hidden compliance and control – was also part of the problem. The breakthrough came when R. acted with truth and love towards himself.

Let’s take the example of another of my clients. M. felt unseen by his wife, L., due to her lack of interest in intimacy. He was about to consider separating. However, through counseling, he discovered that L. didn’t feel seen either, but for reasons different from his own, which was affecting his desire for intimacy. They had three children, and both felt it was worth giving their relationship another chance. By communicating openly and being attentive to the other’s point of view, they were able to reconnect with their intimacy. 

Once you’ve intentionally set out on the path of positive relationship development, you need to proceed with changes and improvements.

1. Willing to change.

Change is the lifeblood of growth in a relationship. It’s about evolving together and separately. When only one partner is committed to personal growth, it can create a dynamic where one is constantly changing while the other remains static.

It can lead to feelings of disconnect or resentment. You and your partner need to be open to learning and growing, not just for the relationship but for your fulfillment.

Additional Insight: Consider the metaphor of a garden where both gardeners need to tend to their plants. If only one does, some plants will thrive while others wither. A balanced effort leads to a flourishing garden, much like a balanced effort in personal growth leads to a flourishing relationship.

2. Improve communication.

Communicating isn’t just about talking; it’s also about truly understanding each other, which is essential to the relationship. 

Effective communication, therefore, involves active listening, empathy, and the ability to express oneself honestly and respectfully. This communication is about more than just solving problems in the relationship. It should also be used to share joys and dreams.

Understand that healthy communication between you is the bridge that will connect your two separate worlds.

Additional Insight: Think of communication as a dance; sometimes, it’s slow and intimate; other times, it’s fast and energetic. The key is to strive to regulate your steps towards understanding and harmony by modulating and tuning your movements.

3. Respect and safety.

A relationship without respect and safety is like a house without a foundation. It’s not just about the absence of abuse; it’s about mutual respect and the feeling of safety to be oneself. Emotional safety is as crucial as physical safety, creating an environment where vulnerabilities can be shared without fear of judgment or retribution.

Additional Insight: Respect and safety are the soil in which love grows. Without them, love cannot take root or thrive.

4. Shared values and goals.

Shared values and goals act as a compass for the relationship, guiding decisions and ensuring both partners move in the same direction. Individual interests and aspirations are okay, but core values and life goals should be aligned. This alignment fosters a deeper connection and understanding.

Additional Insight: Imagine your relationship as a tandem bike ride; the journey is harmonious if both riders pedal towards the same destination. But if one wants to go in one direction and the other in another, you’ll crash!

5. Love and affection.

The love and affection displayed in a relationship give it a heartbeat. They make the hard times bearable and the good times even better. They are gentle reminders of why you chose each other. This foundation of love helps couples weather the storms of life together.

Additional Insight: Love and affection are like the sun and rain to a plant. They nourish and sustain the relationship, allowing it to grow and bloom beautifully.

Conclusion.

The journey of a relationship is not linear and requires adjustments along the way. Without them, your couple risks stagnating, bogging down, and falling apart.

When doubt creeps in, and you wonder whether you’re on the road to improving your relationship, here’s a summary of what I’ve just detailed and what you should check:

• Each partner has the deep intention of wanting to improve and save the relationship.
• Each partner assumes responsibility for these necessary changes and their role in the relationship experience.
• Each partner is ready to make the efforts that will lead to this desire for transformation and fulfillment of the relationship.

Improving and saving a relationship requires willingness, awareness, and mutual commitment. And the effort it takes is the key to a more fulfilling and lasting relationship.

Remember that relationships are like gardens. It needs care, attention, and love to flourish.

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Living parallel lives.

Picture this: You’re sharing a space but not a life. Your conversations are as thin as air, and emotional intimacy feels like a relic of the past. This scenario, where partners live more as roommates than lovers, is a glaring sign. It’s not just about the absence of conflict but the absence of connection. 

Remember, a relationship thrives on shared experiences, dreams, and vulnerabilities. When these elements fade, it’s a nudge to pause and reflect: Are we growing apart, and is it time to lovingly release each other?

The ‘for the kids’ facade. 

Many brave souls stay tethered in unfulfilling relationships for their children. But here’s a gentle reminder: Kids are astute observers. They sense unhappiness and learn relationship dynamics from us. Staying together solely for the kids can sometimes do more harm than good. It’s about quality, not just the structure. A harmonious, happy single-parent home can be far more nurturing than a two-parent home brimming with silent battles and unspoken resentments. I have always stood for my clients to understand that being together needs to remain a deliberate choice and that the kids cannot be used as an excuse to sacrifice your happiness. 

Financial fear factor.

Money matters, but should it anchor an unfulfilling relationship? Financial fears are valid, but they shouldn’t be the sole glue for a partnership. Exploring financial independence and understanding that your peace and happiness are invaluable is essential. Consulting a financial expert or a life coach can provide clarity and options, empowering you to make decisions not out of fear but from a place of strength and self-respect.

The intimacy ice age.

Physical intimacy is often the barometer of relational health. Its absence can signal deep-rooted issues. It’s not just about physical closeness but the emotional bond that comes with it. When intimacy dwindles without efforts to rekindle it, it’s a sign to introspect. Are you avoiding deeper issues? Is there a willingness to work on it, or has the emotional disconnect reached a point of no return?

Trust: the crumbling foundation. 

Trust is the bedrock of any relationship. When it’s shattered by infidelity, addiction, or other breaches, it’s like a crack in a dam – hard to repair and potentially catastrophic. If trust issues are causing constant turmoil and there’s no path to healing, it might be time to reevaluate the relationship’s viability. When a relationship becomes more exhausting than fulfilling, a deeper look into the role that you are playing in keeping it in its current state is necessary. 

The parenthood paradox.

Another pivotal moment that often brings couples to a crossroads is the question of parenthood. Imagine this: one partner yearns for the pitter-patter of tiny feet, while the other sees a child-free life as their path to fulfillment. It isn’t just a mere preference; it’s a profound life choice shaping your future. 

When one’s dream of cradling a newborn clashes with the other’s vision of freedom and independence, the relationship stands at a delicate juncture. It’s not merely about compromising on a vacation spot; it’s about aligning on a life-altering decision. 

Sometimes, the reluctance to have children stems from deeper, unexplored fears or past experiences. In such cases, seeking professional help to understand these underlying reasons can be invaluable. 

However, if the paths remain divergent, it’s a moment of profound truth. It’s about respecting each other’s deepest desires and acknowledging that love sometimes means letting go and allowing each other to pursue a life that resonates with their core. This decision, though heart-wrenching, is a testament to the love and respect you hold for each other’s most authentic selves and dreams.

The shadow of abuse. 

A grim yet undeniable reality in some relationships is the presence of physical or mental abuse. It isn’t just a rough patch or a series of misunderstandings; it’s a deep, systemic issue that erodes the foundation of trust and safety in a partnership. 

Physical violence, an absolute deal-breaker, is often more easily recognized. However, mental and emotional abuse can be insidious, gradually eroding self-esteem and warping one’s sense of normalcy. It’s like living under a cloud, where moments of sunshine are fleeting and unpredictable. 

In such dynamics, the abused partner often finds themselves in a confusing maze of manipulation, constantly questioning their reality and worth. It’s crucial to recognize these patterns: the belittling comments, the gaslighting, the isolation from loved ones. 

Remember, enduring abuse is never a testament to your strength or commitment to the relationship. Seeking help, whether it’s counseling, support groups, or legal assistance, is not just advisable; it’s essential. 

There comes a point where the most loving choice for yourself is to step away to choose a path of healing and rediscovery. I always reassure my clients that leaving an abusive relationship isn’t a sign of failure; it’s an act of courage, a step towards reclaiming your life and your right to be treated with respect and kindness.

Conclusion.

Embarking on a journey of separation is never easy. It’s a path filled with self-discovery, emotional resilience, and, sometimes, a heart-wrenching decision to part ways for mutual growth and happiness. 

Remember, it’s about honoring yourself and your journey towards a fulfilling life. Ask yourself the right questions and take the time to evaluate the points developed above. 

As you navigate these waters, know that you’re not alone. Talk to a trusted friend, seek support, embrace self-love, and trust in your extraordinary ability to thrive, no matter your chosen path.

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What is Self-confidence?

Self-confidence is about recognizing our capabilities, talents, and the tools we possess to take action. It’s an acknowledgment of our strengths. Feeling confident in one aspect of life and unsure in another is possible. Confidence can also fluctuate, being intense one day and wavering the next.

What is self-esteem?

Self-esteem is the perception and vision of ourselves, the value we attribute to ourselves, and the level of love and respect we have for ourselves. It’s the image of ourselves, our self-confidence, and how we talk about ourselves.

How is self-esteem built?

Building self-esteem begins in early childhood and evolves according to the complex events in our lives. Some will strengthen it, and others will weaken it.

When a traumatic event leads to a sudden loss of self-esteem, it’s common to see this as the reactivation of a feeling rooted in childhood, for the foundations of self-esteem laid at the very beginning of our history.

Here are some of the factors that contribute to low self-esteem.

• Strong submission to parental authority and demands or those of important and influential childhood figures (grandparents, teachers, coaches, etc.). 
• Being exposed to recurrent criticism and reproaches, derogatory remarks, etc.
• Receiving mockery, disdain, contempt, lack of consideration or attention, discrimination, and other social exclusions.
• Going through abuse, harassment, and other emotional, physical, and sexual mistreatment.

In short, self-esteem is built on what we’ve heard about ourselves, what we’ve been told, or what has been done to us. Mainly, high or low self-esteem stems from how we’ve processed these pieces of information and the beliefs we’ve developed based on them.

The experiences that shape us sometimes lead to feelings like abandonment, rejection, injustice, betrayal, humiliation, etc. These emotions often remain hidden or unacknowledged in our consciousness. Regardless of our awareness of them, such events can result in the formation of self-limiting beliefs indicative of low self-esteem. Here are some examples:

• I’m not beautiful.
• I deserve what I get.
• I’m not talented.
• I’m not intelligent.
• I always need to be corrected.
• I’m clumsy.
• Etc.

As we grow older, specific events and experiences will awaken these feelings, further validating our beliefs and lack of self-esteem.

Remember this: Building your self-esteem results from your life’s journey. It finds its foundations in your early years and evolves with your experiences and the people you meet along the way. Today, your self-esteem is this constructed idea of your worth, a subjective opinion of yourself.

What are the symptoms of low self-esteem?

Avoiding criticism.

Someone with low self-esteem is usually reactive or emotional to criticism and often displays aggression, disdain, arrogance, etc., in response to it unless they step aside and withdraw.

If this person can’t stand criticism, they’re no less critical of themselves. The little words slipped into her sentences give her away: – I’m stupid, – I’ve made another mistake – I can’t seem to do anything right – I look ugly in these jeans, etc. Words and thoughts often emanate from an unconscious place.

Without necessarily being criticized, a simple contradiction or an opinion different from the person’s own makes them believe (consciously or unconsciously) that they are being attacked. That is why this person tends to be defensive in relationships with others.

Being too permissive or too reactive.

Another sign of low self-esteem is the difficulty, or even inability, to say no for fear (conscious or otherwise) of displeasing others. Considering they are not up to the job or fearing they won’t be, these people avoid taking a stand by asserting their point of view or ideas unless they do so awkwardly and sometimes even aggressively.

Having conflicting relationships.

Difficulties meeting other people or even being in a relationship can reveal a lack of self-esteem. Indeed, how can we attract others if we present ourselves to them with the intimate conviction that we are not attractive, pleasant, exciting, or, more simply, worthy of being loved?

Emotional vulnerability.

The tendency to stress and anxiety can also reflect the insecurities of the person who lacks self-esteem. Such emotional reactions are deeply rooted in past experiences or traumas. Over time, these unresolved feelings can compound, further exacerbating the person’s emotional vulnerability.

Physical appearance.

The body also interprets low self-esteem in its behavior. A tense gait, a bent back, hunched shoulders, crossed arms and legs, covering oneself from head to toe without necessity, for example, or never exposing oneself without make-up, etc., are all signs of low self-esteem.

Appearing overly confident.

Contrary to what one might think of a person whose personality and self-confidence are strongly asserted, they may also borrow from a lack of self-esteem. This blanket is their camouflage.

How do we maintain low self-esteem?

All these symptoms of low self-esteem are triggered and sustained by thoughts (the little voice in your head) that maintain a recurring negative internal dialogue. These thoughts aim to affirm and support limiting beliefs acquired and sometimes reinforced by life experiences.

These beliefs, which are at the base of our personality and have become the pillars of our identity, lead us to adopt behaviors that justify them.

Here are a few examples of limiting beliefs that can result from a lack of self-esteem and the behaviors they can lead to:

• Thinking of oneself is selfish (belief) – Tendency to live according to others, to forget oneself (behavior).
• Putting yourself first is pretentious (belief) – Tendency to stand aside, take a back seat, and not take your place (behavior).
• You get what you deserve (belief) – Tendency to self-flagellate, criticize, and be fatalistic in the face of adversity.

In a nutshell, here is a recap of how self-esteem is built and maintained.”

1. Self-esteem is essentially built on the beliefs we have about ourselves.
2. Most of these beliefs come from our childhood, environment, and how we were spoken.
3. These beliefs are legitimized and reinforced by our coherent thoughts about ourselves.
4. These thoughts are generated by the wounded part of our identity that suffered in the past (childhood).
5. We act (unconsciously) according to our beliefs, even if they are limiting and sometimes turn against us; in short, we act and react to remain what we believe ourselves to be at all costs. 

How to regain self-esteem?

The first step towards improved self-esteem is recognizing the situations and moments when your self-esteem falters.

If you experience feelings of anxiety, stress, frustration, anger, or despair—symptoms of low self-esteem—pause and take a deep breath to distance yourself from these emotions.

Try to link your emotion to the underlying belief that triggered it. Identify the past event or narrative that might have caused this belief.

Instead of getting lost in the event’s details, focus on understanding the root cause of your diminished self-esteem. Aim to quiet the inner voice that reinforces this negative belief, reminding yourself that these thoughts do not define you. The past event they point to has already passed.

I understand that navigating through this can be quite a challenge. Remember, whenever you need to, contact a professional therapist or coach who can provide additional support and insights to make your journey smoother and more manageable.

How to maintain self-esteem?

Get into the habit of following a healthy process.

In the process mentioned above, recognizing negative emotions, thoughts, or responses as indicative of potential low self-esteem can assist in reducing the internal dialogue that perpetuates low self-esteem.

Use your internal voice for positive purposes.

Stop criticizing yourself and harboring toxic thoughts. Instead, value yourselves, recognize your qualities, note all the beautiful things that surround you, the positive things that happen to you, and be kind to yourselves and others. See that despite obstacles, there are many opportunities to learn and grow.

Take an interest in the values that are fundamental to you.

Ensure you respect these values important to you and share them with others with kindness and without fear. After all, allowing yourself to live according to your values allows you to be authentic and, consequently, to gain self-esteem. 

Recognize your qualities.

We all have a unique way of being and existing. It makes us unique, so let’s give your particularity the attention it deserves!

Take responsibility.

Finally, remember that we alone are responsible for building our self-esteem. It’s up to us to decide and implement the strategies that will enable us to achieve this. Looking outside ourselves for validation will only lead to potential frustration and disillusionment. The solution lies within us!

Conclusion.

If our early relationship experiences shaped our self-esteem unexpectedly, or if recent events have challenged it, remembering that we have the capability and resilience to nurture and enhance it is empowering.

As adults, we are responsible for providing ourselves with the love, acceptance, appreciation, and consideration we lacked as children. The key is recognizing and accepting the root of our low self-esteem and understanding that we have the resources to (re)kindle and maintain it to serve our lives better.

I want to conclude with this magnificent phrase from French psychiatrist and psychotherapist Christophe André: “Accepting imperfection is proof that the taste for life has won out over the obsession with self-image…”

A sentence that underlines an essential point: we are perfectly imperfect beings, and that’s perfect in itself.

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Here are my tips for developing and maintaining your self-confidence.

Dare and take risks.

Instead of getting caught up in those feelings of self-doubt, remember that they are fleeting. Unsure about the unfamiliar faces? They’re just as new to you as you are to them, so why not take the initiative and introduce yourself?

The trick is to push past those initial hesitations gently. Every time you step outside your comfort zone, even just a tad, you get more acquainted with new experiences and boost your self-confidence.

If diving right in feels daunting, take it slow. Mix up your daily habits bit by bit and meet the unknown at your own pace. Allow yourself to step out of your routine regularly and in small steps. If you’re used to having coffee in that bar, change the sidewalk and pick a new one. If you work out at this gym, do a session at another.

Going through this process, you’ll gradually learn to adapt more efficiently and gain self-confidence.

Use auto-suggestion.

Let’s talk about the power of positive self-talk.

When those pesky thoughts like “I can’t” or “That’s not for me” start to creep in, hit the pause button. Breathe. And then, flip the script. Replace those doubts with uplifting and affirmative thoughts.

How? By taking a step back and viewing the situation without the lens of past experiences. It’s about recognizing your innate abilities and understanding that they’re ever-evolving and limitless. Boost your self-confidence by reminding yourself: “I have the skills to…” and “I’m more than equipped to handle this…”.

Set goals and define milestones.

There’s nothing like setting goals to overcome your fears and gain self-confidence. But be careful, especially if your lack of self-confidence is linked to a fear of failure; don’t set yourself almost insurmountable goals! In other words, don’t set your sights too high, and be realistic.

In concrete terms, break down your goal into stages, identify the resources that will help you get through each one, and become aware of your ability to progress toward your goal. Once you’ve reached your objective, set a new one. In this way, you’ll gradually build up your self-confidence.

Turn your mistakes into opportunities.

Trials are inevitable, as are mistakes. So, remember this: before you could walk without falling, you took a few false steps. And it was by understanding that walking on uneven ground requires you to watch where you put your feet that you finally managed to stand up.

What’s important is that you learn from your mistakes and move forward. And when you realize that we’re all in the same boat and that those who succeed have also experienced failures, you’ll gain confidence in yourself.

Act following your values.

When you overlook your fundamental values, it can lead to self-doubt, which can shake your confidence, so staying true to your core values is the basis for self-confidence. When you stray from what genuinely matters to you, it can feel like a piece of you is missing. But when you align with those values, there’s this incredible sense of empowerment and a feeling that you’re on the right path.

Here’s a suggestion: Grab a notebook and jot down what’s truly important to you in different areas of your life, like family, relationships, friendships, work, society, and the environment. Reflect on whether your daily actions resonate with these values; if they don’t, consider what steps you can take to get back in alignment with what matters most to you.

Move your body, do sport.

I want to drive this point home: getting active and moving your body is a game-changer for mental and emotional well-being. And if you’re feeling a bit low on the self-confidence scale, exercise can be a real boost.

Here’s the thing: when you engage in physical activity, you’re not just getting fit. You’re fueling your brain with oxygen and releasing feel-good hormones like melatonin, dopamine, and serotonin. These are your body’s natural stress relievers and mood-lifters.

Plus, setting a fitness goal sends a powerful message to your subconscious: “I can do this.” Over time, this belief bubbles up in your mind, reinforcing the idea that you have what it takes. The result? A big boost in self-confidence.

Take care of your appearance.

It might sound superficial, but taking care of how you look and feel good in your skin can do wonders for your confidence. Every morning, give yourself a moment to prep and, most importantly, flash a smile at your reflection before stepping out of the bathroom. Carry that smile with you throughout the day, sharing it with coworkers, friends, family, and strangers.

And remember your posture! Stand tall, walk with purpose, and try to keep an open stance when you’re seated. It’s incredible how these little tweaks can influence your self-perception and, in turn, boost your self-confidence.

Conclusion.

Above all, remember that perseverance and repetition are essential to any transformation. Gaining self-confidence doesn’t happen overnight. So multiply the opportunities to achieve it by putting a foot outside your comfort zone until it becomes a daily state of mind.

Final tip: Don’t compare yourself to others. It could bring you right back to where you started, i.e., your lack of self-confidence. There will always be someone “stronger” than you, and you’ll always do “better” than someone else. That doesn’t matter. What matters is that you recognize your abilities for what they are and know you have the resources within you to improve them constantly.

Then, you will feel confident enough to act and move toward your dreams.

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